As the new year begins, I find myself reflecting on one of my biggest challenges: procrastination. It’s that nagging habit of putting things off, convincing myself that “I’ll do it later,” only to realise that “later” often turns into “never.” Whether it’s starting a new project, pursuing a personal goal, or even tackling small tasks, procrastination has often kept me from moving forward.

Parenting adds an extra layer to this struggle. With so many roles and responsibilities — as a caregiver, partner, full-time professional, and homemaker — it’s easy to push our own interests and goals to the back burner. I often told myself that my children come first, and while that’s true, I’ve come to understand that neglecting my own aspirations isn’t the best example to set for them. After all, how can I teach my children about perseverance and self-care if I’m not practising these things myself?

So this year, I’ve decided to adopt a “Do It Now” mindset — a commitment to quit procrastinating and embrace a fresh start. Here’s how I’m trying to stay consistent in this journey:

1. Progress Over Perfection
   One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that consistency is the key to overcoming procrastination. It’s not about making massive leaps but taking one small step at a time. Even a small victory can create a ripple effect, helping to sustain mumentum. Whether it’s spending 10 minutes writing, clearing one corner of a cluttered room, or finally making that dental appointment I’ve been putting off, progress is progress. And with each small step, the overwhelming mountain of “things to do” feels a little less daunting.

 

2. Be Persistent
   Parenting has taught me that persistence pays off. From teaching my child to use chopsticks to getting through the bedtime routine (when no one wants to cooperate!), I’ve seen firsthand how small, steady efforts lead to results. The same principle applies to our own goals. Even if I can’t give 100% every day, I can still give something. Consistency doesn’t mean perfection; it means showing up, even on the hard days.

 

3. Balancing Parenting and Personal Goals
   As parents, it’s easy to feel like our time and energy should be fully dedicated to our children. But I’ve started to realise that pursuing my own goals doesn’t take away from my role as a parent; it enhances it. By showing my children that I’m willing to work hard for something I care about, I’m modeling resilience, determination, and self-worth. These are lessons I want them to carry with them as they grow.

 

4. Letting Go of the Guilt
   There’s an unspoken guilt many parents feel when they spend time on themselves. I often catch myself wondering if spending time away from my children makes me less present for them. But I’m learning to reframe that guilt. What children truly want is a happy, fulfiled mum who can share quality muments with them — because quality outweighs quantity. If we sacrifice our own needs just to spend more time with them, only to feel unfulfiled or sad, then we’re not giving them our best selves. Taking care of my own interests and goals isn’t selfish; it’s necessary. When I feel fulfiled and balanced, I’m a better parent, partner, and person. It’s not about sacrificing everything; it’s about finding harmony.

 

5. No Perfect Timing
   If you’ve been procrastinating, waiting for the “perfect” time to start something, or feeling overwhelmed by the sheer volume of your responsibilities, this is your reminder: Do it now. Take that first step, no matter how small. Progress is built one moment, one choice, and one action at a time.

Let this new year be a fresh beginning — a chance to set an example for our children and ourselves. Let’s show them that being a parent doesn’t mean giving up on our dreams. It means showing them how to pursue theirs with courage and persistence!

So, here’s to 2025: a year of doing, growing, and embracing the beautiful, messy balance of parenting and personal growth. Let’s make it count!